Coping with Anger

How do you define anger? When I ask my clients “what is anger”, most talk about the violent aspect they have witnessed. According to the American Psychological Association, “Anger is an emotion characterized by antagonism toward someone or something you feel has deliberately done you wrong.” So basically, it’s resentment or hostility you have toward … Continue reading Coping with Anger

Are you even allowed to have a mental illness?

You have a great life. You love your career. Your relationship with your parents has improved tremendously. You are in a good place romantically. But you still struggle with anxiety. You repeat the mantra you grew up with: “there are so many others who have it much worse than you; be thankful for what you … Continue reading Are you even allowed to have a mental illness?

Understanding the unhealthy norms

We have often heard that the meaning gets lost in translation. The intensity of an experience can definitely get diluted in the balancing act of living a bi-cultural life. In honor of Minority Mental Health Awareness Month, I would like to offer some culture-specific examples that may help with understanding the importance/impact of these experiences.  … Continue reading Understanding the unhealthy norms

Munchausen Syndrome by Proxy

In the list of unknown reasons for someone experiencing mental health disorders, Munchausen Syndrome or Factitious Disorder listed in DSM 5 peaks curiosity.  What is Factitious Disorder?  In simple terms, it is presenting self or someone else (by proxy) as sick or impaired in some way. It includes signs and symptoms that may not have … Continue reading Munchausen Syndrome by Proxy

Recognizing Emotional Abuse

During my years working with ‘victims’ of domestic violence, I noticed a common theme- most did not recognize that emotional abuse was a form of abuse. The best way I could describe emotional abuse was by comparing it to an accident. It’s easy to treat the physical cuts or bruises because you can see it … Continue reading Recognizing Emotional Abuse

Dealing with rejection

How many times in your life have you heard the word “no”? How many times have you said “no” to someone else? Even yourself? Does that mean you are not enough? Does that mean that someone else was unworthy? In this instance, the answer is a resounding “NO.” There are many types of rejection that … Continue reading Dealing with rejection

When decisions conflict

We all make numerous decisions every single day- from what to wear to what to eat for lunch. Early on, we become experts at decision-making such that, generally, small decisions are no longer mentally taxing. However, making a large life decision can be anxiety-inducing and cause tension in our relationships. Humans are incredibly complicated creatures. … Continue reading When decisions conflict

Commitment Phobia

There is no official diagnosis for it but it is a real thing. It is something that many struggles with, sometimes without even realizing that they are affected by it. Some say that the individual is not mature enough to handle grown-up life decisions while others find themselves continuously around the “wrong” crowd. Commitment Phobia … Continue reading Commitment Phobia

Generational Trauma

How do you tie your shoelace? Who taught you? Do you know who taught them? Chances are that it was a parent or a family member who taught you just like they were taught by the generation before them. When we talk about family “inheritance,” we mostly assume money, traditions, or even genes but it … Continue reading Generational Trauma

Talking about Mental Health

Talking about your mental health struggles is difficult; you don’t know how others will react to your needs. But how do you talk to someone else about possibly seeking help when they are in complete denial? It is probably one of the most difficult problems out there. As a therapist working with adults, I run … Continue reading Talking about Mental Health